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The Meaning of "Love"

Currently Reading:
A Sourcebook in Asian Philosophy
by John M. Koller, and Patricia Koller



A "Cheap" Word:
"Love" is a cheaply used word in the English language. Not because it's frivolously used, but because there are many different kinds of love. Many languages use different words for these different kinds of love, but English only has one word. Love of a favorite kind of food, love of a family member, romantic love, etc. If you say that you love eating lobster, that is an accurate statement, because you do love eating lobster. However, you don't "love" eating that lobster in the same way that you "love" your parents.

While it is a cheaply used word, it is still powerful in meaning and implication


How to "Love":
The best definition of "love" that I've heard is: Taking delight in the happiness of others. When we are instructed by our teachers and parents to love our fellow man, how would we be if we were to actually follow that instruction?


Namaste,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


The Power of "Yes"

Currently Reading:
A Sourcebook in Asian Philosophy
by John M. Koller, and Patricia Koller



Lesson from an Improvisational Actor:
According to actor/comedian Mike Meyers (Austin Powers, Wayne's World), the "secret" to being a great improvisational actor is to say "yes" to everything that comes at you. Don't resist anything, don't fight anything, don't struggle with anything. There is nothing you can do about what comes, except what you do with it once it comes to you. Do you say "yes" and harmonize with it, or do you say "no" and struggle with it? What good comes from that struggle? Could that energy have been more constructively spent? How will you answer the next thing life brings to you?


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


Pigeon-Holing

Currently Reading:
A Sourcebook in Asian Philosophy
by John M. Koller, and Patricia Koller



Habits:
When you know someone who is very funny, isn't it interesting how you might laugh at almost anything they say, even if it's not funny? When we know someone who's often argumentative, when they ask a question, isn't it interesting how we'll suddenly become defensive because we assume they're looking for material to argue?

Just because someone has been a certain way before, doesn't mean they'll always be that way.


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


Interruptions

Currently Reading:
A Sourcebook in Asian Philosophy
by John M. Koller, and Patricia Koller



Masculine Women's Studies:
On top of my promotion at work, which has me busier then ever, I also started school again last week. The journal entries have suffered a bit, but I'm still here.

One of the classes I'm taking is a women's studies class, and oddly enough it's called "Men and Masculinity".


Attack of the Feminists:
OK I admit it, the femi-nazis got me! They converted me, and now I hate men . . . not really. ;-)

Going in, I thought I was a pretty gender balanced person, and I still believe I am. Some may not buy it, but just in case you didn't get the punchline, here it is: Sometimes I use sexist jargon and sarcastic tones of feigning sexism in order to poke fun at its absurdity. Believe it or not, I am a feminist, in that I have this crazy idea that women should be valued equally to men.

What I didn't expect is the little things that I've discovered I do that perpetuate patriarchy. I've discovered that if a woman is talking, I'm more likely to interrupt or change the subject. The good news is, once I've noticed that I do that, I can actively take steps to avoid doing it in the future. :-D


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


More on Forgiveness

Currently Reading:
Zen Buddhism: A History, India and China
by Heinrich Dumoulin



The Constant Replay:
I am often plagued by my mind's insistence upon replaying old events and conversations. Sometimes I really get into it, and think things like, "Man, it would have been GREAT if I would have said ... " Sometimes I think things like, "Why did I say ..., when I should have said ... " Usually I just want it to stop, because it's already done, and there is nothing I can do about it. How many times can one relive an old conversation?


Give Up:
I heard a great quote that has been rattling around in my head for the last couple of days, and I wish I knew where it came from, "Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past." Forgiveness is not just something we show others, it is more often something we should show ourselves.


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


Surprise!!!!!

Currently Reading:
Zen Buddhism: A History, India and China
by Heinrich Dumoulin



The Price of Being Excellent:
I've been gathering "ammunition" for my annual review, which I was supposed to have in mid-December. I had gather irrefutable evidence that I was worthy of both a raise and a promotion. I am overly qualified for my job, and I had done excellent work on a consistent basis.

It seemed like THE DAY I finished assembling my data to take to my department head, the CEO walks up to me.

Him: Hey, do you wanna work on a project?
Me: Sure!
Him: OK, I'll get back to you later.

The next day, he walks into my office and says, "When you're ready, meet me in my office."

I went to his office, and he got to talking about a project he wanted me to work on. He showed me the tools he expects me to utilize (which are almost completely new to web building).

Him: Are you up to it?
Me: Absolutely!
Him: Great! What do you need from me?
Me: *blank look*
Him: *waits*
Me: I need to be free from distractions.
Him: I'm going to have you in your own office in about . . . 120 seconds. What else do you need?
Me: We need to talk about compensation.
Him: What you will be learning will increase your value to the market. You can expect to be able to make 40, 50, 60K a year with these skills. As your value improves to me, so will your pay.
Me: Let's get started!


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


New Year, and New Improvement: Syndication!

Currently Reading:
The Way of Zen
by Taisen Deshimaru



We Are Live:
I have set up my blog now, so that it can be syndicated w/a RSS feed or ATOM. The links are near the top-left of my blog, just under my pic. As you all know, just click on the type of subscription you use, and you'll be notified every time I make a new post. No having to manually go here and check, though you can do that if you REALLY want to. ;-)


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


Live Like Your Hair’s on Fire

Currently Reading:
The Way of Zen
by Taisen Deshimaru



New Book:
So I finished the last book, and had 2 more in the wings. So what do I get? 2 MORE BOOKS! I swear, I must be a masochist or something. These things are piling up on my desk faster then I can read them . . . that's entirely my fault though.


Like Your Hair's on Fire:
The first sentence of this new book is as follows, "You must concentrate upon and consecrate yourself wholly to each day, as though a fire were raging in your hair." Incidentally, this is also how I drive.

The author goes on to describe this Bushido (way of the warrior, or "Samurai Code") phrase. He says that you should live each moment fully, as though it may be your last. Leave no room for regret, hesitation, or fear.

This is synchronous with a thought I was already carrying, though it goes a bit further then mine. The thought I was already carrying was simply, "If we're lucky, we get a mere 28,000 days on this little blue marble." This had already forced me to consider what it is that I have time for on a day to day basis, and what I don't have time for. I quickly discovered that I have no time for holding grudges, anger, hatred, jealousy, etc. The only thing I do have time for is love and compassion.

These first few words in my study of Bushido already reaffirm that sentiment, and actually carry it to the next step. I MIGHT have 28,000 days, then again I may only have this one. Of course, this is no excuse to blow everything I have on a quick wild ride, because I may be around for many years still. I should simply act in every moment as though it may be my last.


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha


The Most Sincere Gift

Currently Reading:
The Way of Zen
by Alan Watts



A Rare Jewel:
What is possible the most difficult thing in the world to do?
What is precious to us, though we often treat it cheaply?
What is it that we often ask or even demand of others, even though we have intention of accepting?

A sincere apology. Not the kind of apology that we tend to puke at each other as a matter of "keeping them quiet", but a truly sincere apology. The kind of apology made on a bent knee, and a tear in the eye.

When it is truly offered, without being asked for, it is a jewel of the heart that is being offered to us. Accept the gift as though it were as fragile as an egg, as valuable as a jewel, and as treasured and beloved as an infant.

Such apologies rekindle friendships, and end wars.
Such apologies are the secret of peace.


Cheers,
CET

"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the illusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha